Five tips that’ll make you a better lover
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If you are asked to choose between a beautiful girl who is totally lazy in bed and an average girl with awesome bedroom skills or a guy with giant penis and tight muscles but unskilled in sex and the average guy who knows how to use his small penis to make you sing, who will you choose.
Many people are under the impression that their physical attributes are all that matter in making them someone’s lover.
Interestingly, this is only true to a very limited extent.
Yes, you may get a lot of attention for pretty face, big butt, nice cleavage, fresh boobs, fine muscles, hunky body big penis, sweet talking…
But it is what you can and/or cannot do when it comes to the bedroom that will make you last as the sexual partner of that person in the long run.
If you are asked to choose between a beautiful girl who is totally lazy in bed and an average girl with awesome bedmatic skills or a guy with giant penis and tight muscles but unskilled in sex and the average guy who knows how to use his small penis to make you sing, who will you choose.
Now, no matter your body type, there are certain things that will make you sexually attractive and preferred by your lover:
1. Be clean always.
A clean sex partner is like gold. When it is seen that your body is always clean and edible, you will be more appreciated sexually. A man for example will not mind eating his girl’s salad if she smells normal down there. A girl will be more likely to gobble down some hotdog if it doesn’t come with extra cheese. Nice breath, use of deodorant, clean hair, feet that don’t smell bad, and clean genitalia will help create more confidence in the bedroom. You can let yourself go if you’re not feeling self-conscious about how you or your partner smells or tastes.
2. Make sounds and speak during sex.
Sex is as much about what we say, as what we do. Remember, the biggest sexual organ in any person is their brain. So make an effort to speak with your partner about how the sex makes you feel, about what you want, and about what you want to do to him or her. Dirty talk, moaning and other coital sounds make the sexual experience more memorable. Also, try complimenting them on things they do, how they look generally, or why you like certain parts of their body. Tell them how they turn you on. This really stimulates intimacy and desire which are important aspects of sex.
3. Keep in shape.
The best thing you can do for you and your sex partner is to keep your body in shape as much as possible because the more fit your body is, the better it is for sex. Eating healthy and exercising is good because it boosts your libido and allows you to execute challenging bedroom moves – sex positions. However, remember that even if you are carrying some extra weight it’s not the end of the world. While being obese can affect your flexibility, you shouldn’t let it have an impact on your stamina in the bedroom. Keep yourself mobile, take walks regularly so you have enough cardiovascular fitness to be a good lover. Poor fitness can make you a poor lover, so it’s up to you to make the most of what you’ve got.
4. Put your partner first.
A funny thing about sex is that we don’t always get into the mood the same time and this time difference can lead to issues in regular relationships. You should not make a habit of turning him/her down every time because that is like saying, “I’m not interested in you.”
You should make efforts to give that thing your partner wants in bed, even if you’re not in the mood at the time. That’s part of loving someone, doing things for them even when it’s not to your best interest at the time.
This point is also very important for small dick men. Obsessing about your penis size before, during, and after sex is also a form of ‘not putting your partner first’. You’re really only thinking about yourself (albeit negatively) when you do that. So by this act alone you can become the kind of poor lover that you fear you are. Like a self-fulfilling prophesy. We know this can be a hard obstacle for man small penis men to overcome, but if you want to have a satisfying sexual relationship with another person then you have to.
If you find you really can’t overcome this psychological barrier, we strongly recommend you seek counselling with a qualified psychologist. This is something that can be overcome, so don’t feel you’re alone with this problem because many men feel like you do. You can be helped.
5. Lastly, always reciprocate .
If you show you’re willing to go the extra mile in pleasuring your partner, then more than likely they’ll return the favour. This is the pay off for being unselfish in your desires, and putting them first. There’s a pay off, or their should be. If your partner is in turn selfish and enjoys all you do to them, but makes little effort to pleasure you then that’s a problem. You need to talk about that. Maybe it’s a sign she/he is not right for you. However, this is where you really need to be assertive and talk about it openly. They may get the hint and up their game.
Just remember the old adage that ‘Nobodies perfect’. That very few men and women are naturally good lovers, for most of us it’s something we have to learn. Mostly because we’re only ever taught the mechanic of sex in school, and then on top of this we’re bombarded with loads of misinformation about everything. So when we begin to actually have sex we go at it all wrong, and some develop habits that make it impossible for them to ever be good lovers.
If you’re really keen to be all you can be with your partner then these tips can help make a big difference to your sex life. In the end, however, to get the best results from the advice in this article we really recommend you discuss it with your partner. Communication is often the biggest problem in relationships, and talking about these things together can really put the spark back in your love life.