True Stories: In Defence of My Small Penis

by Ant Smith

A study released recently informs us that the average penis size worldwide is 5.16 inches long when erect. According to the BJUI, the urology journal, which published the findings, this should help to “reassure the large majority of men that the size of their penis is in the normal range.”

I’m sure it does, but that doesn’t mean these results are all good news: My life does not change one bit waking up to find that, today, I am only 1.2 inches below average, as opposed to the whopping 1.8 inch discrepancy of yesterday.

I suppose this whole exercise of laboriously measuring 15,521 penises—both flaccid and hard—demonstrates that, as a society, we do still possess the ability to obsess about size. (I’m open to that accusation myself.) So, whatever else is said, I’m happy that we’re all talking about penis size in an open, honest, non-judgemental, serious way. Which we all are, right?

And yes, another positive factor—helpfully pointed out by the folk at BJUI—is that those worried about their average-sized dick being small no longer have cause to worry. Because, at five inches, it’s not small; it’s average. From now on, when someone tells you that your average dick is small, it’s abundantly clear that the problem is in their perception, not your equipment.

A penis can’t be measured by inches on a stick—a penis is as small as a man’s confidence betrays it to be.

However, I’m unconvinced that second point holds up. For the man with penis size anxiety is a man who takes an enormous amount of convincing. Every time he hears a kindly lady state, “That’s not small,” he gives a blank stare and thinks, Thank you. I wish that were true.’

A penis can’t be measured by inches on a stick—a penis is as small as a man’s confidence betrays it to be, or else as small as the imagination of the partner he is with. We see new research emerging regularly, seemingly always driving down the international standard of “acceptable dick.” But this has never helped—and will never help—a single soul.

At the same time, we find ourselves confronted with language like “average” and “the normal range.” This implies that the rest of us are in the abnormal range, a polarisation that doesn’t serve anyone very well. A polarisation, in fact, that immediately draws my mind to a solemn story of penis size anxiety leading to teenage suicide. Size is not a mark on a ruler; it really is a state of mind.

There is no doubt in my mind that you know a man of around my stature, or less. Think for a moment who it could be. Your dad? Your brother? Your roommate? Wouldn’t you be angry to see someone point a finger at their penis and shriek, telling them, “Ew, you’re abnormal!” Draw upon the strength of your familial and social bonds and recognise this thinking as the trouble that it is.

When a man suffers size anxiety there is only one solution. Enlargement methods (pills, devices, surgeries) will never yield a result that ends in happiness—though bankruptcy, anguish, and physical deformation are definitely in the cards, if that sounds like your vibe. Likewise, comparison to others will never ease a troubled mind; you’ll go mad questioning the veracity of the data or the quality of the interpretations.

The only answer is to accept who you are.

While these surveys may seem to be devised to help that, they simply do not. Nobody quite believes them. At the rate they crop up, saying different things each time, they don’t even seem to believe themselves. They polarise society into those who are normal, and those who are abnormal. Even if they don’t quite encourage an obsession with size, they certainly endorse the idea that size is a necessary concern.

“But I have to feel something,” a lady recently said to me in an interview on the topic. And I quite agree. But I believe technique and imagination can excite a greater response from a greater expanse of flesh than any dick, of any size, could ever hope to.

 

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3 comments

  • Dugan

    I’m apparently above average at slightly over 6″ but am very small sometimes non-existant when soft… married 22 years and sex is good. It took 20 years of open honest conversation to find the courage and trust to let her have another man. The first turned out to be smaller and not great but it was a fun and stimulating because the love and trust is stronger than ever.
    The second guy turned out to be the best thing ever in our relationship… He was a recently single much younger man who moved in next door. I never met him until after they got together 4 or 5 times. I trusted her to decide and go for it. He treated her like the goddess she is. He was much bigger 8 + and gave her nearly 30 of the best orgasms of her life ! But she believes i also gave her those 30..
    Circumstances in his life moved him 1000 miles away. But we all stay in touch. The amazing part is that she fell in love with him and deeper in love with me.
    This can only work if you love totally trust and COMMUNICATE ! If you love someone you esnt the best for them … in EVERY WAY

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  • Thanks again for sharing my work in this arena – I want a wide readership of my thoughts and you are really helping

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    • admin

      We’re glad to help, much of the aim of this site is for guys to celebrate their size rather than to be ashamed of it. So we’re right behind you.

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